Nobody is arguing the fact that make sex toys are amazing. After all, they single-handedly changed the face of modern-day sexuality and paved the way for exciting innovations for both men and women.
Their development shed light on how the human body works and has lead to helpful insights on the nuances of sexual relationships between the sexes. Certain devices have even been given credit for breaking down cultural boundaries and bringing disjointed couples together in a more realistic way for the very first time.
The problem, however, is that all those advantages cause some people to become addicted to masturbation, pornography and sex. Uh oh, SpaghettiOs.
Fortunately, there’s a way around all the psychological obstacles that stand in between great sexual experiences and troublesome mental health. In other words, it’s possible to enjoy contemporary sex toys without becoming addicted to the sport. The key is to approach the situation with white gloves, giving full credence to the fact that even the strongest among us get weak from time to time. Learning how to avoid sex addiction while also enjoying amazing orgasms with sex toys is a fine line to walk.
Let’s explore how it’s done.
The Four Functions of Responsible Sex Toy Use
Individuals and/or couples who wish to live their best lives almost always consider the finer points of things before making up their minds. They also think about the danger zones and do their best to avoid them. Anyone can become addicted to erotica at any time, so it’s important to stand guard against your innate nature. These are the four most effective things you can do to truly enjoy your sex toy purchase(s) without becoming a raving lunatic about it:
- Stay Away from Too Much Sex Tech
Sex tech toys, which refers to pleasure products that are equipped with high technologies as their primary design component, are popping up everywhere. Today’s market suddenly has devices with exciting things like virtual reality capabilities, Bluetooth connectivity, integrated heating elements, sync-to-music technologies and much, much more.
Lack of variety is therefore no longer a valid complaint. However, too much exposure to extreme erotic scenarios can be damaging to your psyche and your relationship. Instead of using such extreme measures to spice things up, opt for more intuitive technologies like built-in artificial intelligence or stick to more simple toys like fleshlights.
- Limit Your Exposure to Pornography
The reason tip number one is so important is because it limits a person’s exposure to unrealistic XXX content while still providing them with the hyper-realistic, totally customizable, and virtually unstoppable orgasm that can be shared directly with a partner. Enjoying modest amounts of pornography may not be damaging but it’s a slippery slope between catching a clip and becoming an addict.
Toys that use porn as their primary design function – such as with VR-compatible devices that link to online porn databases – may do more harm than good to your love life, especially if you end up liking it more than the real thing.
- Have Sex and Masturbate without Toys (Sometimes)
There’s nothing wrong with mixing it up a little bit, regardless of whether you’re playing with a partner or with yourself. Sex and masturbation are completely subjective activities, plus they’re supposed to be centered on personal pleasure, physical satisfaction and emotional intimacy – not focused on what a man-made sex toy can do.
Relying too heavily on pleasure products can breed envy, jealousy, resentment, low self-esteem and even hate, driving some relationships into the ground instead of up in the clouds. Yes, I’m saying sex toy use is a double-edged sword, so wield your weapons wisely by keeping them in storage every now and then.
- KISS: Keep It Simple, Stupid
Imagine yourself getting it on, becoming all hot and bothered, about ready to stick it in and drive it home when all of a sudden, your device malfunctions or starts behaving in way that significantly reduces pleasure, comfort and/or enjoyment. It’s a sad mental picture but it can stay a hypothetical situation as long as you choose a sex tech toy that’s not too complicated. Manufacturers usually do a good job of presenting user-friendly products but that’s not always the case.
Complex devices can make people feel inadequate, embarrassed or unnecessarily vulnerable, leading to addictive and/or reclusive behaviors. No Bueno, ladies and gentlemen. Now KISS and make up.
- Incorporate Couples-Friendly Devices
Among the treasure trove of high technologies now available at our horny little fingertips are integrated motion sensors, wireless remote controls and teledildonic technologies. It’s enough to make anyone want to bury themselves in a basement and masturbate until the cows come home. You can’t do that though.
Behaviors like that are indicative of sex and/or porn addiction, plus it means only one partner is getting their primal needs met. For that reason, couples-friendly sex toys are often recommended to prevent certain addictions and destructive relationship trends. There are no excuses left. Manufacturers even make products that sync up with one another or off dual motions for both participants in real-time.
Variety is the spice of life, so use your resources wisely to develop a healthy, well-rounded sex life that’s free of counterproductive compulsions. It’s up to you and your partner to find a balance. Sex tech and its flagship brands will not stop giving consumers what they want, even if it means allowing them to destroy themselves. Take a stand against sex addiction by using your pleasure products responsibly.